Confessions on Making Friends
Hey guys, Steven Rindner here, dropping by for a quick update. If you follow my blog, then you probably already know that I battled with social anxiety for most of my college years. Today I wanted to provide some more details about my experiences so others may find the courage to seek help, and hopefully place more importance towards their mental health.
People who have social anxiety should not be told to just “get over” their condition. In fact, this can do more harm than good, causing the anxiety-riddled person to retreat further into his or her “cave”. It’s not that we don’t want to make friends, the opposite is actually true! We love people and we want to learn about them, their stories and their passions, but it’s just something terrible always gets in the way—fear.
I’m fortunate to not have allowed my social anxiety to cripple me so much to the point where it would affect my class performance. I know some people with social anxiety who experience severe weight loss because they wouldn’t go out of their rooms. However, these are the more extreme cases.
As some of you may know, I made progress with my symptoms and was able to crawl out of my hole, so to speak. This wasn’t without any help; whether it was professional or turning to my loved ones and simply learning more about cognitive behavioral therapy and applying its techniques—I tried them all because I refused to give up and go down with my social anxiety.
Now that I’m close to graduating, I feel I’m better prepared to move into the working world and move forward from my past. I’m sure this new phase in my life will present its own set of challenges, but overcoming social anxiety once was a big feat, in my opinion. I’m sure I can overcome other challenges in the future.
Study Smarter, Not Harder
Hey guys, Steven here, thanks for tuning in for another blog update. This time around I want to talk about studying hacks which may help you pull up your GPA. As college is a wonderful time to learn more about yourself and meet other people, it would be a shame if you spent, say, 10 hours a day focusing on a single material.
So, let’s get started. The first thing you need to understand is the difference between studying harder and studying smarter. With the former, you can put in all the time you have, but still end up walking away with only a vague understanding of your lessons. Why? Well, research has shown that studying for long periods of time is counterproductive. This tells us that instead of cramming and putting so much pressure on ourselves to memorize dates, formulas, and details a day before the exam, it is much better to space out our studying.Reviewing those lessons periodically results in a higher chance that the information is stored in our long-term memory.
If you have a major exam coming up, try this study hack and see whether it makes a difference. You’ll most likely be given a timetable of your exams at the beginning of the semester anyway, so you can create a review schedule ahead of time. The reverse of this also works. Once you’re given a new lesson that you’re having difficulty with, you can review the material several days and weeks after to see whether it gets retained in your long-term memory. The idea is to keep coming back periodically to review the information to make sure you get it.
Everyone has a different way of learning, so it may take a while for you to find what works for you and your learning style.
Best of luck!
Welcome to my blog page!
This is Steven Rindner and I’m going to be sharing some of my college experiences here; from my first day in class, which I almost missed, to settling down in my tiny room in the dorm, to making friends with people I practically have nothing in common with, and maximizing my little budget on food and parties. This is going to be a really memorable and nostalgic narration of the past few years on my part so I hope you guys will stick around.
As a graduating senior, I can’t express how thrilled I am to have reached this far. No more exams, no more readings, no more staying up late, and no more terror professors! At the same time, this also means no more extra allowance from my parents (boo!), no more long vacations, and no more time to spare for frivolous activities. I’ve already started making a shortlist of potential employers I’m interested in so do wait for future updates on that. Hopefully I’ll only have nothing but good news to share.
While this blog is intended for college folks, college graduates and yuppies are also welcome to stay around and reminisce about their experiences. In the end I hope to lead an active blog where there will be meaningful exchanges between readers. Nevertheless, for now I’ll be focusing on sharing my college hacks, tips that will make you go, “Why didn’t I think of that?” Some of these neat tricks and solutions I devised out of creativity, necessity, and just plain boredom. Some were also generously shared to me by my friends.
Additionally, do expect my blog to be home for my thoughts and insights about other things as well. I’m into board games and mobile apps so I might throw in a few reviews here and there. Lastly, my blog will also serve as my exercise log since I’m currently into the whole health and fitness advocacy.
My blog is open to your comments and suggestions! I’d be more than glad to receive your feedback so I can take steps to improve my site. If you have a specific topic you’d like me to tackle or elaborate on, please feel free to touch base with me. I’ll be posting my official social media accounts and contact information here soon. I’m just finalizing a few things and arranging the surprises I have in store for the site so check back again soon.